"Mother, mother there's to many of you crying. Brother, brother there's far too many of you dying.  You know, we've got to find a way to bring some loving here today."             - Marvin Gaye
Military male victimization and sexual assault among service men remains an unimaginable truth for many. 
My survivor brother and friend, Matthew McVarish from Scotland delivers an inspiring TED talk! 

Listen to a Radio interview I gave about healing!

I share some thoughts about promoting healing and the importance of never giving up or remaining silent about your victimization with Conversations Live blog radio host, Cyrus Webb (aired April 25, 2014)  LISTEN NOW!

To Begin Healing From Sexual Assault You Must....
Para que comiences a sanar del 
abuso sexual, DEBES....

Tell What Happened To You!

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Stop carrying this secret around.  It was just not your fault! You did as you were expected to by someone you knew and trusted.  They made the decision to sexually assault you and you did not have the personal safety knowledge to know how to stop this from happening to you.
Cuenta Lo Que Pasó-Contarle a alguien de confianza lo que  te sucedió.

Understand Your Perpetrator Choose To Assault, NOT You.

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Your perpetrator choose to abuse and sexually assault you.  
Entender que tu abusador te eligió y planeó abusar de ti.

Consider attending A Survivor Support Group

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One of the most powerful healing moments comes when your able to physically meet, face to face, other men who know what your experience felt like and what issues this past brings to your current relationships today.  You are NOT alone-we are all around!  Contacto Con Otros Sobrevivientes-Aceptar que también es importante que establezcas contacto con otros sobrevivientes  para platicar y obtener apoyo.​ 

Accept It Was NOT Your Fault!

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Understand and accept that what happened to you was not your fault.  You did what you were told to do in order to survive. 
Comprender y aceptar que NO fue culpa tuya. Entender que tú hiciste lo que se te ordenó con el fin de sobrevivir.

​Find A Professional Therapist

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There are qualified therapist who work exclusively with male sexual assault survivors.  Best case is to have a survivor recommend a therapist. If this is not an option, search online resources near you. Hablar Con Un Consejero-Aceptar que es importante que obtengas ayuda de un consejero calificado.

Focus on maintaining healthy, positive relationships and life experiences.

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​Seek out healthy, positive people, relationships and experiences. Mantener Experiencias Saludables Y Positivas-Concentrarte en mantener experiencias saludables y positivas en tu vida y en tus relaciones.

A Brief Summary of Sexual Predator Clergy History IN NEW MEXICO 

For years, New Mexico secretly hosted thousands of pedophile and sexual predator priests sent here from Catholic Archdiocese from across the globe for treatment and rehabilitation.  Some remained and were re-assigned throughout unsuspecting New Mexico communities of faith. No one was alerted and THOUSANDS were victimized. Some of these survivors are just now beginning to speaking out!