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To My Survivor Brothers...
If your going to heal from your abuse wounds, your going to have to tell someone what happened to you. By telling who assaulted you, you can begin to give up feeling responsible for it and release yourself from living in unnecessary silent shame. Healing begins when you also accept the fact that what happened to you, was not your fault. You were the victim of a sexual predator and you did whatever your perpetrator expected and directed you to do in order to survive.
I need you to pay attention to what your "gut" says when you encounter unprofessional or inappropriate behavior from a therapist or anyone claiming to work with male survivors - if the person makes you feel uncomfortable, you need to end the connection and try another resource.
I am encouraged by the number of men and women who have contacted me with words of appreciation and support for sharing my life’s healing journey. I never expected that my humiliating disclosure of being victimized, would help so many others commit to heal and live healthier lives. Their words are my greatest source of strength and courage to continue moving forward.
I need you to pay attention to what your "gut" says when you encounter unprofessional or inappropriate behavior from a therapist or anyone claiming to work with male survivors - if the person makes you feel uncomfortable, you need to end the connection and try another resource.
I am encouraged by the number of men and women who have contacted me with words of appreciation and support for sharing my life’s healing journey. I never expected that my humiliating disclosure of being victimized, would help so many others commit to heal and live healthier lives. Their words are my greatest source of strength and courage to continue moving forward.
More About Hank
Born and raised in Southern California. Graduated from Loyola Marymount University in Los Angeles with a degree in Communications. In 1983, while working for the same company, Hank met his life partner and husbank, Antonio. They moved to the Land of Enchantment in 1986, where they continue to enjoy and appreciate life in New Mexico.
Hank spent over 35 years as an internationally recognized authority and spokesman on men healing from sexual assault, abuse and trauma. At conferences, he is often introduced as a pioneer survivor spokesman for which he is proud to accept.
Today, he is a man of many creative talents that can be seen throughout this website and appreciates receiving communications from visitors who are inspired or moved to contact him.
Hank spent over 35 years as an internationally recognized authority and spokesman on men healing from sexual assault, abuse and trauma. At conferences, he is often introduced as a pioneer survivor spokesman for which he is proud to accept.
Today, he is a man of many creative talents that can be seen throughout this website and appreciates receiving communications from visitors who are inspired or moved to contact him.
An Summary of Sexual Predator Clergy in New Mexico
For years, New Mexico secretly hosted thousands of pedophile and sexual predator priests sent here from Catholic Archdiocese from across the globe for treatment and rehabilitation. Some remained and were re-assigned throughout unsuspecting New Mexico communities of faith. No one was alerted and THOUSANDS were victimized. Some of these survivors are just now beginning to speaking out!
Grateful for My Remarkable Life with, and Love of, Antonio Garcez
" It is with profound sadness that I announce the peaceful passing of my beloved husband of 40 years, Antonio (Tony) Garcez at our home in Central, NM on Sunday, September 10, 2023 from Parkinson’s related complications.
Antonio’s life has been a cherished blessing to so many, and he will be remembered dearly for the depth of his creative brilliance, spiritual expertise and ever-present humor. If you were lucky enough to be in Antonio's life, you know the unbelievably kind, selfless, loving, and funny human being he was.
In addition to his passion for creating art in multiple mediums, he enjoyed music, the great outdoors, exploring museums and galleries, visiting national parks, and investigating first hand paranormal experiences.
Nothing was more important to him than spending time talking, laughing and storytelling with the people he loved. His heart had no boundaries and nor did his friendships. Antonio’s carefree and generous life energy repeatedly inspired people's hearts and minds. Nobody could have asked for a better son, brother, friend, uncle or husband".
Antonio’s life has been a cherished blessing to so many, and he will be remembered dearly for the depth of his creative brilliance, spiritual expertise and ever-present humor. If you were lucky enough to be in Antonio's life, you know the unbelievably kind, selfless, loving, and funny human being he was.
In addition to his passion for creating art in multiple mediums, he enjoyed music, the great outdoors, exploring museums and galleries, visiting national parks, and investigating first hand paranormal experiences.
Nothing was more important to him than spending time talking, laughing and storytelling with the people he loved. His heart had no boundaries and nor did his friendships. Antonio’s carefree and generous life energy repeatedly inspired people's hearts and minds. Nobody could have asked for a better son, brother, friend, uncle or husband".
"Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always." Author Unknown